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1.  True faith in God produces public actions stemming from the inward condition of your heart (working while                 resting in Christ). If this is not the case in your life, why are you grieving the Spirit of Love? 

     

  • Can others see Christ in you? How?

  • How would a friend describe your Christian walk? ​

 

 

2.  When in a discussion, are you willing to forgo your desire to be right in order to keep the peace?

       

  • Do you tame (a deliberate decision to take control of) your emotions and reframe (change) your perception        to achieve peace?

 

  • Are you willing to drop a discussion when it appears your advice is not taken and leave the outcome for            God to work out or do you get stuck in your angry thoughts that pushes your interaction into a cycle of              conflict? ​

 

 

3.  Regret is when you do something without thinking through the likely consequences and instead make a                    decision based on the results of instinct and uncontrolled emotion. How many seconds do you think it takes to          do something you regret and how long do the consequences last for doing it?

 

  • Do you evaluate your thoughts and their consequences before acting on them?

     

  • The difference between being intentional rather than impulsive is about a half of a second; enough time to         consider an alternative to your first thought. Do you take the time to do this (2 Corinthians 10:5)?​

 

 

4.  Do you believe that forgiveness is still the best remedy for your internal peace, even when the other person             involved is still holding a grudge against you? Do you discount your anger (let it go) and trust the Lord to                   handle it? If not, what stops you from doing so?​

 

 

5.  Read Mark 2:1-12 and then answer the questions below; 

   

  • When the paralytic heard Jesus was in own town, he could not go to see him on his own. What would have        happened if nobody came alongside the paralytic to get him in front of Jesus?​

  • Can you see the power of hope and faith at work with the paralytic and his friends? It was the friends that            rallied together to get the paralytic to Jesus. Their collective desire for healing was backed by the action            they took to find Jesus. When the friends saw the house where Jesus was at was full, they persisted in faith      and detoured around the roadblocked, instead of giving in to discouragement. What stops you from                    proceeding in faith? ​

  • Are you willing to ask your friends for help? Would you be described as a “friend” or a “Christian friend”?            What is the difference?​

  • Consider the term enabling behavior. What is the difference between coming alongside another person and       that of enabling (helping someone by removing or minimizing the natural consequences of their

        behavior)? ​

   a. How does enabling behavior stall the learning/maturity process of you or another person?​

   b. How can you show love and acceptance while not enabling addictive behavior to continue?​

Grieving or Pleasing the Holy Spirit #2

1. Read 1 Samuel 8. The people of Israel wanted to be ruled by an earthly king. What did God tell Samuel (judge,         prophet and priest) about his own/personal reaction to the people’s rejection of the advice he had given to them     (which was to keep God as their ruler instead of being ruled by an earthly king)? ​

a. Samuel was offended by the group’s request for an earthly King because they were basically saying that           God wasn’t enough. After he heard God’s advice, Samuel went back one time to give the group a chance           to change their minds (1 Samuel 8:8-9). When the group persisted, Samuel gave in. If you were Samuel,               would you have given in or would you have persisted in trying to get your own way? ​

b. Do you see that what Samuel did is what God wants us to do too? When a conflict doesn’t end in a decision

    pleasing to both sides, do you fight the urge to get angry and, instead, choose to let God be in control so          you can remain at peace practicing God’s principles? (See page 2 of  Appendix 1G). ​

c. Do you think Samuel is a failure because he didn’t demand compliance? Rather, he gave in when he saw            he couldn’t convince the people to agree with him.

   

d. Do you judge your success and failure based on the opinion of man or do you remain obedient to and

    trustinof God’s principles? ​

e. Do you experience anxiety when you grieve the spirit; knowing God’s Word but being double-minded and        deciding to do something else that is more pleasing to yourself? ​

2. In 1 Samuel 24:1-7, David had an opportunity to get back at King Saul. He "cut a corner off his robe” but refused        to kill him. Later in verses 16-19, Saul sees David and realizes that David, despite having the chances to kill him,        did not seek revenge; David remained humble and respectful of King Saul despite the way he was being treated      (1 Samuel 26). What stops you from doing what you know is pleasing to the Holy Spirit but is not what you feel          like doing? 

 

3. Read 1 Samuel 9:1, 10:1, 13:1-4. If Samuel anointed Saul with oil (Old Testament terminology for the presence of          the Holy Spirit), why did Saul eventually fail in His reign as Israel's first King? ​ ​

4. At first, King Saul liked David. But he let jealousy rule his conduct so Saul thought of ways he could kill David. As      a New Testament believer, what does it take to access the power of the Holy Spirit to act righteously and                  express love (Luke 6:27-28, Romans 12:9-21, Galatians 5:16)? ​

5. Contrast the attitude of King David (Psalm 51:4) against that of King Saul (1 Samuel 15:24-28) regarding                         repentance.​

  • Both men believed in God, what was the difference? How can you observe when someone acts from a single-minded heart?​

6. Is the message in 2 Chronicles 7:14 a one-time occasion for people or is this something we do on a regular                basis so we do not deny our faults but instead continue to grow and mature in our Christian walk, per James              5:16? How often do you do this?​

7. If Godly wisdom is “rightly dividing the word of truth” (2 Timothy 2:15) and Godly insight and discernment is                applying the Word appropriately and not growing weary of well doing (Galatians 6:8-9), then aren’t you grieving        the Holy Spirit (not acting on the knowledge you of God) when you aren’t walking in love towards others? ​

  • What role does mood play in your actions?

  • What do you learn about the relationship between your expectations and God's?

  • How do you adjust your hopes, dreams, and ambitions to please God, first?

  • How do you make sense of this verse found in 1 Corinthians 10:23, "All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up.

9. Agree or disagree: Impulsive decisions come from our flesh and are reactive whereas intentional decision-                making comes from the spirit and soul where thoughts and revelations are compared to our beliefs and then              released by our will (decision) and then implemented by our body (physical action).​

10. If you haven’t renewed your mind in God’s Word after you were spiritually awakened, how can you tell if you              are grieving the Spirit of God living inside you?

 

  • Do you let the Word change you by turning your retrospect into wisdom for tomorrow?

 

 

  • When you do read the Word, do you expect temporary discomfort from performance tension while you                       incorporate new thinking and doing habits into your lifestyle? 

 

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11. With the Holy Spirit (the Comforter), Christians are never alone, spiritually. “A man of many companions may               come to ruin, but there is a friend (the Comforter) who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24). Don’t allow         isolation to get you down.

  • "In Christ", a Christian is never alone. Do you spend your alone time with God developing this relationship?

  • How do you structure this time? (What time of day, what days of the week, etc?)​

Grieving or pleasing the Holy Spirit #3 

1. Read Isaiah 61:1-2, Luke 4:18-19 and Matthew 28:18-20. The Spirit of God is given to Christians to have the power     to live out the gospel. Jesus says in John, “If you love me, you’ll follow my commands”.  Will you choose to               change your lifestyle habits so you can achieve a new normal?

2. In light of love, what does John 14:15, 14:23, 1 John 2:4-6, 4:7-8, 4:14 say to you about being and doing love?

 

  • If you don’t love yourself, can you love God or your neighbor?​

3. Read John 15, 2 Corinthians 5:14 and Galatians 5:22-23.

  • How do you remain in the vine; a passive action verb? (Include the Holy Spirit's role in the output of your physical works.)

  • Can you see how God's love "compels" you to produce cognitive consistency by connecting your physical actions with your spiritual condition?     

  • Do you please or grieve the Spirit if you don’t produce any fruit?​ Does this have anything to do with earning your gift of salvation through belief? If not, what impact does Christian cognitive dissonance have?

4. Read the parable of the sower, recorded in Matthew 13:1-9, Mark 4:13-20, & Luke 8:9-15. Do you control your            emotions and intentionally react in faith (using Spirit-empowered faith, self-control and patience to produce in          you the rest of the fruit of the Spirit)? If not, what’s holding you back? ​

5. Read Ephesians 2:8-10. Do you agree that a person is saved by God’s mercy, but it is by His grace (empowering      you with the Holy Spirit) that enables you to act out righteousness (acting consistently with Godly thoughts,              (Psalm 92:12-14, 106:3, 1 Peter 3:12).

 

  • How do you show gratitude to God?​

6. Taken together, Philippians 4:7-9 and Colossians 3:15 reveal a choice. What is that choice? If you choose to let        God-honoring  behavior rule your body and soul, will you achieve this emotional peace (John 16:33, Romans            12:18, 15:13, 2 Corinthians  13:11, 1 Timothy 6:6)? ​

 

  • What is the cost or trade off for this peace?  ​

  • What does having the peace that surpasses all understanding? Do you have it? If not, ask yourself (not God), why not? ​

7. Read 2 Timothy 4:7, 1 John 2:1-2, 1 Corinthians 6:10, Ephesians 6:12-18, Romans 7. The Apostle Paul implies that        because sin is a continuous component of our physical world Christians need to put on the armor of God and          fight the "good fight of faith". After explaining the struggle, Paul gives thanks to Jesus Christ. Why?

 

  • How does knowing and depending on Jesus protect our peace of mind? ​

8. Consider your natural personality. Are you prone to think, “That’s just the way I am?” or are you willing to flex           your personality style when interacting so you accommodate their style to preserve the peace? For example, if       you are naturally assertive and extroverted, do you reframe your tendency to feel frustration or anger when             you don’t get your way or if you are less assertive and introverted, do you tend to feel hurt and so disengage? ​

 

  • What areas of your thinking or behaving do you need to change or is it everyone else around you that needs to change so you feel comfortable? ​

  • In keeping with the cognitive dissonance theory, what commonly used defense mechanisms results from an identity that is NOT firmly grounded and rooted in Christ (see tab called, "Be Watchful of the Tendency to Self-protect" in the section on "Manage Self in a Social World"?

 

  • Have you accepted the fact that God loves you? Does that change your reactions to problems?​

 

  • Can others tell you are a Christian by your expression of patience and your commitment to unity in problem-solving?​​

9. ​Are you God dependent and self-sufficient in Christ or are you self-reliant and dependent on the opinions of            man?

 

  • Are you double-minded when it comes to pleasing God? ​

10. Knowing God helps you use a knowledgeable faith to fight fear. What is God’s part? What is your part?

 

  • What role does your tendency for control and pride play in your fear and worry?

 

 

11. Describe the relationship between belief and trust (Psalms 56:3-4, Proverbs 3:5, Matthew 23:27-28)? ​Include in       your answer the difference between head knowledge and heart knowledge.

   

     Hint:

  • How this can produce your E  on earth (see Appendix 1M)

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